Gathering in groups as society falls apart – by Vicki Robin

How do we, who are so accustomed to individualism, enter into a new reality of living in concert with others? Not as a condiment but as a necessity. Not through idealistic eyes but as a sober process of surrendering attachment to the ego’s demands and entering a state of belonging to a people and a place.

Professor Jem Bendell

VR.SMILE_.JIM-1x1-350x350A guest blog by Vicki Robin, best-selling co-author of Your Money or Your Life, author of Blessing the Hands That Feed Us, and member of the Deep Adaptation Forum. Published to coincide with the Deep Adaptation Crowdfund.

“Everyone wants community. Unfortunately, it involves other people.” I used that line in lectures on frugal living when talking of the loneliness of consumerism and the benefits of sharing resources. We idealize the good old days of people helping people out. But can we live them, given who we have become?

Individualism is one of the many privileges of ‘the privileged’ in Western society. We have options and choices about where we live, with whom, of what genders, ages or races, whether we are child-free or have a brood, what we eat, what we believe, jobs we’ll accept, and on and on and on. As people look at…

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3 thoughts on “Gathering in groups as society falls apart – by Vicki Robin

    • I have to concur, Rosaliene. Here, in Chilliwack, B.C., Canada, the trend has been away from interaction as the city grew, went from agricultura to bedroom community for the larger cities to the West: Abbotsford, Surrey, Burnaby/Richmond and Vancouver. 6:00 AM and the freeway is already jammed with commuters. 6:00 PM and the same in reverse. These people have no life left to do ought but watch a bit of TV, maybe Facebook, maybe notice they have kids or not, and sleep until the alarm. 4 hours of their life is spend on the road each and every day, and all of them reluctantly thankful they have a job to drive to. Exceptions noted.


  1. I always lived in big cities until I was 57. Prior to that, I believed I had to live in a big city or I would die of boredom for the lack of museums, art galleries, theater, ballet, etc. I also believed that people in small towns were innately conservative, that I would never find people who shared my values and views. I can’t believe how wrong I was.


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